A toxic boss isn't just a morale crusher. It is a organizational liability. No, you can't change your basic personality structure, but are things you can do to improve your temperament. The term “toxic boss” is not a diagnosis of any condition, but refers to a supervisor who exhibits certain behaviors that cause employees distress.
These behaviors include berating your employees, creating division among your employees, appearing to be concerned only about getting the job done, and overlooking important needs employees have to feel supported and treated with respect. Some supervisors generate fear among employees with their supervision style, or they act like they care about getting input from employees, but never or seldom incorporate it.
Does this sound familiar to your supervision style? The EAP (do you have one?) can help you examine your supervisory practices and relationship with employees to improve your ability to be more productive while reducing the conflicts between you and your employees.
In the end, both you and your organization will benefit from improved morale, reduced turnover, and many costs associated with being a toxic boss. If you don't have an EAP, a life coach will be an awesome substitute. I will be worth the few sessions you'll need to reorient yourself to approach to your human capital.
